There are two sides to every story. The side you can see, and the side you cannot. Are you willing to find out what the other side of the story is? The reaction you have might change drastically if you know… and the last thing we want in life is unnecessary reactions (more on that later this month).
Last week I got an email from my manager asking if my “assistant” (a girl from another department who works with me for 4 hours because of workload) would have some time to assist on a new project.
I was upset. Just weeks before I had discussed with my manager the goals I had for the coming year and how I wanted to take on new responsibilities. Now, she was giving the opportunity to someone else.
How could she do this? How could she have no regard for me?
I went from zero to sixty in 4 seconds flat…
But after talking with my friends I realized there was an alternate approach I had missed in the midst of my anger; rather than take it personally maybe I just needed to reach out. I needed to tell her what I wanted. So I did….
“If at all possible, I’d like to learn this as well. Do you think I could be trained too?”
“I don’t see why not.”
In the end, it wasn’t about my manager overlooking me. “We didn’t want to overwhelm you is all…”
So the moral of the story is:
- Find out the other side of the story.
- Try to give situations & people the benefit of the doubt.
- Reduce your anger; it will cloud your judgment (and you might never find out the other side of the story!
- Digest what has happened and quickly come up with an alternative (if needed) that will satisfy your wishes and desires.
- SAY WHAT YOU WANT. (Sometimes saying what you want, actually exposes the other side of the story – WIN, WIN!)
Has there been a situation in your life where you had an unnecessary reaction because you didn’t know the other side of the story? How did you feel, and how did you make it right? Let talk about it!