Living Without Regrets

When you’re on your deathbed don’t let the story of your life begin like this;

I wish…

Most people are scared to die because of regrets… I wish I had; I wish I hadn’t; I wish I could have; I wish someone would… We tell ourselves every day that we can’t do what we want to do (or we’ve done what we’ve done) because the timing wasn’t right.

IMG_5230I posted this image on Instagram and Facebook a while back and some of the responses I received were, “I’m not afraid to die, or I’m not scared of death.”  then you are fully living.”

“Then you are the rare few that are fully living,” I said.

But it made me think; I wasn’t talking about people being afraid to die – I was talking about people living (and then dying) with regrets.

Most days we navigate on auto-pilot, telling ourselves we are doing what we need to do to survive, or that we don’t have enough time to make the “big moves,” necessary to do what we want. Watching TV for 60 minutes – instead of painting, creating, researching, talking… is that surviving? I’m pretty sure you can do a lot in 60 minutes. Things that would lead to down the path of getting what you want. Success stories aren’t based on a miraculous things happening all of a sudden, they are based on people creating situations because they manage their time well.

That little kid inside you who knew when she grew up she was going to be great… is not surviving. She could have grown stronger if you fed her flame but instead, you got distracted by a funny cat video.  We think we will have all the time in the world to do what we want to do. “How is a cat video hurting me,” you ask.

It’s not hurting YOU; it’s hurting the person you could become!

“Do what you love, be who you are… so if your life were to end tomorrow your story won’t start with, I WISH.” (Tweet This)


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Flashback: Take the Risk Even If Nobody Is Holding Your Hand!

Original Post Date: July 2014

“and then I discovered that if there is something that ‘nobody wants to do’ that is a great opportunity to really rise to the challenge and make a difference.”

I have an interview today. It’s an interview for a department transfer and subsequently,  a promotion.

In the weeks preceding this one, I discussed this interview with a lot of people; I wanted their advice and their support. Sadly I was met with a lot of discouraging conversation. The first words out of my boss’ mouth were, “Oh, that job is really hard… Stacy* hated it. She was really unhappy.” Really?

She then told me with a shrug, “maybe they’ve changed the position since she left – you never know.” I hate when people shrug. It makes me feel like they are calling me stupid.

Another co-worker had the same reaction, “Yah, that job – it made Stacy so unhappy. She hated it.” At first, I started to question my decision. Maybe I didn’t want the job, maybe it wasn’t for me.

However, on my way to work this morning I had an epiphany: maybe I had been thinking about this too minimally – focusing on individual things about my current position – the trivial, monotonous things that everyone in my position hates doing…

Instead, maybe the thing that ‘nobody wants to do,’ is actually an entire POSITION.

Everyone’s breaking point is different. Maybe Stacy didn’t like the job, but maybe she was lazy and didn’t want to work very hard, or maybe she didn’t understand the purpose of her job in the grand scheme of things, or maybe she just didn’t care at all.

Either way, I’m not Stacy. I could love this job or I could hate it, but at least I am taking a chance on something.

Wish me luck!

Edited to Update: I KILLED IT. No matter what happens now, I feel 100% confident with HOW I interviewed.

Additional Update: I did not get the job. But instead, got a promotion within my current position, and additional responsibilities.


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